There is a story about a young newly-wed couple cooking dinner together. The new husband watched his new wife prepare a ham. She removed the outer wrapper, cut off the end of the ham, and then threw the end into the trash.
"Why'd you do that?" asked the husband.
"It's how my mother has always done it," the new bride replied.
"Why'd your mother do it?" ask the husband.
"I don't know," said the wife.
"Could you ask her?" said the husband.
"Sure," replied his wife, eager to please her new husband.
The bride went to her mother and asked, "Mother, when you cook a ham why do you cut the end and throw it away?"
"It's the way your grandmother taught me to do it. You'll need to ask her," said the mother, so the bride went to her grandmother with the same question.
"Sweet child," the grandmother laughed! "I cut off the end of the ham because the ham was too big to fit into the pot!"
Sometimes we develop our coaching beliefs in much the same way. We mimic what we have heard, and we repeat what we have been taught without question. Why don't we question what we have heard and been taught?
-Adapted from Muscle and a Shovel